Shocking Reflections of a reformed Perfectionist
As a perfectionist it was so important to me that things look perfect and always be in control. I used to believe that everything had to be just right, and the experience of being wrong was unbearable. If my hair wasn’t perfectly managed or if my clothes were wrinkled I would feel angry and embarrassed. In my head I was always fighting with the world, trying to get things right and winning every battle.
The problem of perfectionism is that it never ends because I was constantly comparing, striving for perfection in my work and my life. Each time I was not perfect there was a feeling of failure, which then made me strive harder for perfection in the next moment, creating an endless cycle of stress and anxiety.
One of the first changes that I made was to stop thinking about myself as a do-it-all perfectionist who had to fix everything. Instead, I started to see myself as a person who has strengths and weaknesses, which means that sometimes I can do things really well and other times I can’t do them at all. This new mindset shifted how I saw myself and allowed me to accept my imperfections without feeling like a failure.
Once you start to accept yourself as a whole person with flaws rather than someone who is perfect, you free yourself from being controlled your fears about what other people think about you. You learn that you don’t have
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